Buzzed & Balanced
Buzzed & Balanced
Southern Sass and Drag Class with Graham Morrison: Part 2
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In the second rollicking half of this special 2-part episode of the "Buzzed & Balanced" podcast, our hosts and special guest Graham (a.k.a. Anna Yacht) dive headfirst into a comedic whirlpool of Nepo babies, accidental legal threats, and unforgettable jingles from bygone commercials. As they swerve from confessions of whisper-shouting inappropriate offers in public to the trials and tribulations of relationships, both failed and flourishing, the episode is a masterclass in turning personal anecdotes into universal humor. Between shared woes over student loans and the eclectic Aquarius birthday cluster, the gang navigates the complexities of love, self-discovery, and the power of a well-timed dick joke. Ending on heartfelt reflections mixed with plans for future pride-themed shenanigans, it’s clear that what truly binds them is not just the laughter, but the shared journey through life’s absurdities.
Navigating Relationships and Moving On
Speaker 1Welcome back. We have an additional guest. This is my boyfriend Spencer.
Speaker 2Hi Spencer.
Speaker 1Hi Spence.
Speaker 3I love your gifts.
Speaker 4Thank you, family empire.
Speaker 5Oh my god, we love a NEPA baby.
Speaker 1We do. I'm so excited about when you're a parent. We can get all the money.
Speaker 5All the lava lips, dildos and incense.
Speaker 2yeah, spencer gifts he is my ex is like a nepo baby yes, like 100 really oh he is from what empire from like
Speaker 3the ottoman empire. Well, so many ottomans.
Speaker 2I'll just say this his family works in law, so like you don't see me you so you can draw your own conclusions. Yeah, they work in law and have like their whole family?
Speaker 4has he works for jg wentworth, wait no that's not jg wentworth that's what happens when I smoke we do like I'll be on the bus and like I am seeing these people singing and I'm like no, there's nobody here.
Speaker 3This isn't a bus, this is an alley behind an aldi. That and then the bitch from.
Speaker 5Oh my god, call free education. Oh yeah, education connection For free.
Speaker 3For free Education connection yes.
Speaker 2Yeah, okay, okay, I'm reviving. I brought that up a few months ago to some people and they're like what the fuck are you talking? About and I was like how do you not know this?
Speaker 5Icon.
Speaker 2This is iconic After school you get home and education connection is on school.
Speaker 5you get home and like education connections on like that's how I'm gonna get my education yeah, they're gonna pay for it. Jk, I'm still paying for mine yeah, oh my god, I looked, I checked my student account today, me too. It said overdue because I haven't been paying. Dude, fuck them, I'm not paying it, I had to pay them $600, today $600.
Speaker 4I ain't got that never kind of money. Oh, I don't now.
Speaker 2I literally had to pull out of the emergency fund, dude.
Speaker 5Because I'm not a nepo baby. Oh yeah, no.
Speaker 2I literally for my birthday.
Speaker 5My birthday's on February 7th and.
Speaker 2I called my mom.
Speaker 5Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2Happy birthday.
Speaker 1Happy almost birthday. That's my new sign Aquarius.
Speaker 2I'm a Gemini, but then, yeah, aquarius too, I'm an Aquarius double.
Speaker 1Leo, I'm an Aquarius. Are we all Aquariuses? I think there's a birthday party.
Speaker 3I haven't officially received my invitation to of yours.
Speaker 1I need to send you a text. Wait, are you Aquarius?
Speaker 5Oh, yeah, yeah the 17th. Yeah, because his birthday is a week after mine.
Speaker 2All my exes were Aquariuses, but I love y'all, I love. But you better than anybody else I can like be friends yeah but, just not relationship even though they say, a Gemini and an Aquarius are the best match dude I my shitty ex was a.
Speaker 5Gemini and I've been traumatized ever since.
Speaker 1Who says that, but Aquarius and Leo?
Speaker 2June or May. It was June.
Speaker 5Yeah, that's why I'm in May, may's are the best, and I'm a natural twin.
Speaker 2Okay, so we need to date. Oh, my God.
Speaker 3Well, here I'll go ahead and give y'all some of these, since it's birthday stuff. So there's three Yacht House Party Halloween coasters.
Speaker 2Oh my God, oh my God, I have that at the house.
Speaker 3The girls, yes, which I'm like.
Speaker 2I don't know if people actually hold on to these or not, but I'm glad you did.
Speaker 3And I also have some Yacht Studios magnets.
Speaker 2I'll take a magnet, please, and I have three limited edition the picture. The infamous.
Speaker 3I have Elvira and Hologram. I have the Love Witch.
Speaker 5Oh Wait, is that the one that's in the pink hair? Oh my God.
Speaker 3No, that movie is pink. Yes, it's amazing.
Speaker 4You got the pink hair. That's the one. Yeah, okay.
Speaker 5I've been wanting one of these for so long. I will take the Love Witch if you are giving it we'll take the leftovers and then you each get a magnet.
Speaker 3This movie changed my life we did a showing of that at Aperture and I was in drag and the Osco Labs that distributes it reposted the picture of me as Elaine in the Love Witch from the Aperture showing.
Speaker 5It was a very full circle. Oh my god, we love that.
Speaker 3Yeah, it was a beautiful moment, but I didn't have my glasses.
Speaker 2And then here's some coasters. It's going in the fridge.
Speaker 5You know where to put them. I love the Sims 1 font.
Speaker 3That is something that I've always really loved about the show that you do. These will be our coasters, our official coaster, the official coaster.
Speaker 1Provider of the podcast not sponsored by ea games challenge challenge everything perfect so I thought for our final segment you dirty whores we could talk a little bit about relationships and how to move on when they go to shit.
Speaker 2I think you're asking the wrong bitch, but yeah you really are asking all the oh my god yeah, commercial break this is the end.
Speaker 1This is actually a great end of the episode, because none of us have any good advice for that at all we are all stuck in the past oh, I have advice, I just don't know how to apply it.
Speaker 5Oh my god, yeah, for sure I will tell people like six ways to fucking sunday, how to leave somebody, and then I will fuck my ex for a year and get back together with them so I'm the wrong bitch you're the right bitch.
Speaker 2Look at where you're at now.
Speaker 5Look at your journey hey, he changed for me, he didn't. I didn't know that until they do they do.
Speaker 2No, you don't, but anyway, um, yeah our gym helper.
Speaker 3Looking at the camera moments are my favorite.
Speaker 2I'm like anyway, I'm like, but you're turning like though, like you told me, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay on our last canceled episode.
Navigating Relationships and Ultimatums
Speaker 5Let's start with the healthiest and then like de-escalate okay, yeah, all right okay I'm not picking the order, though we okay, me and zach started dating um in like 2020, so we did that cute little like we're quarantined together, trauma bond, whatever but. I will say, like you know, I had years of, because I'm a chronic monogamist, so I had years of like being with people who were just so toxic and horrible.
Speaker 5I had a few good exes thrown in there, whatever. And when I met Zach, I was like trying to get over one of my other exes and it ended up, like you know, I was nervous. It was a hinge date. I was like, oh my god, like I've never used hinge before, I don't know what to do. Whatever, I showed up zach is the first guy because I don't hang contrary to this podcast, I don't hang out with men and so no offense, I love you guys, so it's a little different exactly.
Speaker 5It's a little different, but he is the first man that's ever like genuinely made me laugh, like belly laugh, like that was something that I noticed from our first date, so whatever. And also from then on, you know inseparable. And he like best boyfriend I've ever had, like so sweet, so attentive. I remember one time like I was on a run with a because I used to be a dog walker, so I was running a dog and I ended up tripping over the pavement and like scraped up my knees. I still have scars from it. He took a late lunch break just to like bring me a first aid kit.
Speaker 1Like that yeah.
Speaker 5Like that kind of shit Like very sweet, very tender hearted, whatever. But it ended up, you know, like.
Speaker 3Which is funny because you didn't meet on Tinder. You met on Hinge.
Speaker 5Yo Level wordplay, but he level wordplay um, but he I remember like a year in it just kind of got to the point where we were just kind of friends it's like friends that were having sex and so I broke up with him hardest breakup, the only person I've ever broken up with in my fucking life and I you know he was crying, whatever, and I did my shit because I love having sex and I did my shit where I was like, but if you ever want to have sex, let me know. And so we ended up basically for a whole fucking year we were still dating. We would go out all the time. I met more of his friends. We hung out every, we slept together every single night. It didn't matter if we were dating other people. Like we were hanging out all the time for a year.
Speaker 5And finally, my last birthday, last February, I looked at him and I was like, I think back to, like my Christian days and I thought, you know, when I was a Christian, I thought I would be done having babies by 26. Like I thought I would be married, whatever. So I had this whole existential crisis. So I told him I was like, hey, babe, so we either, by the end of February, need to get back together or we're never talking again, because the way we're acting right now is that we're a couple. All your friends say it Like. I know ultimatums aren't healthy, but we really like. I know you want to be with me and I don't know what your fucking issue is. And so by the end of February he was like I love you, I want to change for you, I want to be with you. And lo and fucking behold, like he really truly like. We have constructive conversations. He like brings me flowers, he plans dates, like oh, that's incredible he does it's actually insane because I was like.
Speaker 3I didn't really know if he would like step up to it but it ended up a lot easier to say than it is to like apply exactly and like things aren't always like flowers and like perfect or whatever, but like it's not supposed to be.
Speaker 5Yeah, like yeah, and he honestly has done so much. He's so sweet, he knows how to like apologize correctly, he knows like what my love language is. He I mean truly like. But the one thing about it is is like that's so fucking rare, like if it was my friends, because one of my friends is going through like this really tumultuous, like back together breakup, back together relationship right now. And I keep telling them I'm like you know, I love you. I'm not one to judge, you know, because I've been through so many fucking relationships like that where it's like this isn't my place to tell you to leave them, but I will say like, do you think they're capable of change? And I think that's my biggest advice is like, do you think they like you as a person? Because that's the only thing that will get them to change. It's like, yeah, they like having you around, but do they fucking like you? Not love you, but just actually like?
Speaker 3genuinely enjoy. Yeah, like as a friend, yeah, and so that's like my only thing.
Relationship Patterns and New Beginnings
Speaker 5Yeah, that's like my only thing with, like, if you are planning to get back with an ex, it's like, do you get the vibe that they actually like being around you? And so I don't know.
Speaker 1But that's my, that's my story, I'm sticking to it bitches, so I love my boyfriend I think that, like that, like thing that's. That's what helped me, like move on from my fake imaginary ex, which was like him, just being like I don't like you, dude, and I was like dude, that's the worst thing anybody could say to you, yeah it's like, yeah, it is but it was like okay, I hate, hate you.
Speaker 5Saying I don't, like you hurts, like fuck the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
Speaker 2Exactly.
Speaker 3And that's my TED Talk and that's what you missed on Glee.
Speaker 2Okay, you're next. I don't even know how to go from there. We don't have time for all that. I don't know what you guys want me to you got three minutes, graham make it worth it like all right, graham, I mean my, you know my experience.
Speaker 3I kind of touched on earlier with the ex that I had been with for, you know, four or five years.
Speaker 3Like it just sort of became a part of my identity, um, and I was 25 when we started dating.
Speaker 3It was long distance, yeah, it was sort of against all odds, but it was this kind of thing where, like, I don't feel like uh remain romantic.
Speaker 3I don't feel he was from oklahoma but really, um, I just don't feel a lot of like romantic feelings for a lot of people and I'm sort of a serial monogamist as well and like I love the idea of having, you know, like not just a partner, not in a codependent way, but more in like a companionship and like camaraderie, and like this is my person and you know, I know, for me, a lot of times people are sort of drawn in and this is just a pattern that I've seen. So hopefully it doesn't sound too like hooty tooty, but it's like people are drawn into like the pizzazz and the like excitement and like the drag and the photography and all that stuff and it's really cool and exciting at first and it's, you know, it makes for a like kind of surreal honeymoon phase yeah it really is that sort of like first three or four months, because I think usually avoidance are more attached to me or they're more drawn to me because I think I, you know, have like a um, a lot of what, um, people aspire to be.
Speaker 3As far as maybe more introverts are like, oh, you're very extroverted, like you know, and everything seems kind of easy at first, they don't really sort of see the cracks in the veneer but like we're all human and we all have our shortcomings and our insecurities and stuff. So, um, you know, with the ex that I was with for so long, that was apparent. Um, you know the other eggs, because you know all. He wrote me this like valentine's day thing of like things I love about Graham by he's not gonna listen to this, that's fine, his name is um and like I remember like reading that years later, like after we'd broken up, and it was like I love the way you like serve fierce drag looks and I love the way you'll like pop off on a bitch if they, you know, and they were like I love the way like this and that and all these things that, like you know, are very like inherently me.
Speaker 3But then it's weird to look back and be like these are literally the things that you had an issue with. It's like the light shines super bright and then it's like too much and then you're like I don't know, not feeling like you can actually accept it, or it's like something less true to like who they were attracted to in the first place or something I don't know how to describe it exactly. It's weird. But you know, with this recent relationship it just did sort of come out of nowhere and it was a month after I had sent like this long sort of I guess some would say scathing I'd say that's fair Text to where I was. Like you know what. Like you lied to me, you manipulated me, like you were doing all this like shady stuff behind my back, you cheated on me, you got an std which, again, thank god, I never like was um fucking him fuck it at me at that point, but uh, or vice versa.
Speaker 3But you know, I was just like you know, thank you for allowing me to see, just like you, you know who you truly are, because it makes it so easy to let you go and I'm done with this shit. And like a month later that's when I met my most recent ex, um, and you know, it just kind of came out of nowhere again. It was like on hinge or Tinder or something, and we went to dinner and I just remember just connecting, we went to quiet pint and the whole night I was just like I can't believe that there's actually someone that like I'm sitting here on a date with and I enjoy it. You know, it just felt so, like the conversation was so real and then at the end, like we went, you know, and he had a views too, which I was like, oh my god, soul mates, like we both have um not a, not a.
Speaker 3Um. What's the other one? Not a. What's the little one that's like the little jewel, not a jewel.
Speaker 5Yeah, we're Winston girlies.
Speaker 3Yeah, you know I just gotta hold it down. But we went to, you know, we walked to our cars and he's like I think I'm gonna kiss you now and like just, I was like okay, like that was great, just that like boldness I saw from him as someone who I could tell was pretty introverted, like that that was really special. So from there, I mean you know we were texting all the time, we started spending, you know, more time together. I started staying over at his place and it was just this. It just happened so organically.
Speaker 3And at this point drag was starting to kind of pick up and everything you know as far as like I or you know drag brunches and I had the idea of maybe starting to do yacht house parties and I would like go over there and be on my iPad and like make flyers and contact performers and do all this like you know, coordinating, making mixes.
Speaker 3It was just so nice to finally have someone to like be around and just sit there with. And you know he wasn't like making mixes or styling wigs or anything, but just having that like sort of symbiotic relationship between the two of us, where I know I had the support, I know I had the um just, you know, like a cheerleader and someone that was in my court who wasn't from this world but appreciated it, like that was so cool and special. And you know, we again the first like four or five, six months were really amazing. And then we got into pride, which was really stressful and that kind of put a damper on us the first time because, like I was again, like I mean pride just is the most stressful time of year for me especially when there's protests and people threatening to bring guns to a drag queen story time and I'm going on.
Speaker 3I think it's just the more I was dealing with stuff and having to go into this autopilot sort of place with my relationship with drag and with you know my career and saying yes to everything because you never want to say no to any opportunity. Yeah, you know, I think it started to sort of make me have one foot out of actually proactively thinking about the relationship and like what a relationship takes to make work. And he's again far more introverted, a little bit avoidant. So the more he would pull away, I'd be like why are you pulling away? Why don't you love me? What, like you know, just really. And that went on for a while and I mean we'd have good times, we've had bad times.
Self-Reflection and Healing After a Relationship
Speaker 3But you know, the second pride and he even said it before he's like I don't know if I can survive. Another pride, like that was just so much last year and I mean that's around the time I started drinking again and even at the barbie brunch, like everyone was wasted and I was stressed. There was a million things going on. So I started like taking shots there and it was fine. Everyone was like oh, you're having fun, you're a drag queen drinking at your giant party that you planned for months and put everything into for this like two-hour thing.
Speaker 3But you know, I was saying goodbye to everyone. He's like all right, like it's time to go, like it's been like an hour, and I always told him to kind of move things along. You know, be like hey, you can come up and say that. And I was just drunk and I was like I'm talking to people, like this is my job, and I know another friend was like he walked off and was like uh, I don't fucking need this. And he did it. You know, I mean, because that was that was literally him just trying, like he's just so sensitive and so sweet. But I definitely took a lot of that for granted.
Speaker 5Yeah.
Speaker 3Not to say that you know I was doing it deliberately. But you know, in relationships you don't realize sometimes how much you are surrounded by someone's support, especially when you're in that kind of like autopilot mindset, of like autopilot mindset. So after that, I mean things just really there was just really such a like divide between us, and this wasn't just intimacy, but it was just the connection that we'd had before, because I really, I mean, I was going through a really dark time in my life but I didn't want to admit it to him and I didn't want to admit it to myself, because it felt so um, it just felt so selfish to be like you're bringing people's dreams to life, your dreams are coming to life, like you're making everyone happy and bringing this community together.
Speaker 3But the thing was I wasn't, you know, I wasn't pouring back into the two cups that really should have meant the most, which were obviously my own and his, because I couldn't have done a lot of that stuff without him. So, you know, I think we just kind of got to this stagnant place where I was like we have to like in this, we don't. I don't feel like I can make you happy or healthy anymore. But I realized it's like I wasn't making myself happy or healthy, I wasn't prioritizing myself to be the partner I needed to be. So, you know, my thing is it was, I mean, it's been four months.
Speaker 3It's been like an insanely roller coaster, high and low sort of experience, but like I feel like I've felt enough pain now to actually know like what means the most to me in a relationship and like what someone's worth. So, oh my gosh. So you know, I mean it's kind of, to quote Justin Timberlake in Mirrors yesterday's history, tomorrow's a mystery. You take what you can, you take what you can learn from it, and you know you try to hold space for that person. But it's, I mean the love is.
Speaker 3I mean, at least I can say for myself like the love is unfortunately probably there even more than it was before, at least as far as me acknowledging it yeah because I think that that was another fear I had was being so hurt from the past relationship that I did project a lot of those um, I mean wounds and core wounds of like losing my mom when I was younger and feeling abandoned by friends and no one wanting to play with me when I was a kid because I felt awkward and was weird and looked like bobby hill, you know, it was just sort of that's my purse, and now I look like a mixture between peggy and lou anne so hey kids it does get better.
Speaker 2It does get better, but you know.
Speaker 3but the thing is, I also have to remind myself that it's like I know that I have so much love and support around me and gratitude is something that I have no struggle experiencing, because I've always realized, like how blessed not just I, but like everyone, like we're living in such a great time. I mean there's so much going on in the world right now that in the past four months has been chaotic and traumatic and devastating for everyone. And I'm not saying like oh, that's what a coincidence, but I mean honestly, like it's a tough time to be alive and if you can find someone that really, like honestly supports you, sometimes your ego is less important than giving them the platform to hold space for them and be like hey, like what do you need for me? That's I always say.
Speaker 3It's like I don't want to ruin a moment by acknowledging it, but like I'm trying to get to the point where I do acknowledge more of those moments and don't worry about being corny or worry about doing things like bringing the person you love flowers or going on hikes, or going on dates and, you know, like introducing them to your family and stuff. It's like those are all important things that I feel like I'm just you know. It's like you know these things, but you don't. You know, you don't know what you have in the moment.
Speaker 3Yeah, you just get it in autopilot. For me is it's again. It's sort of an ADHD like survival tactic that I have. It's my version of just being like I have to do everything. I can't say no to anything because that opportunity I say no to could have led to something else.
Speaker 3But yeah I think going forward, especially with drag, it's like first of all fuck, spreading yourself so thin for pride like which we all do, even you know, in general, but I'm like I'm gonna do the stuff for people I want to do and I'm not gonna let people, you know, talking about me or gaslighting me because they're not in a show or because I don't do enough. It's like I know I do everything I'm capable of and that's enough yeah um, and I don't want to have it negatively affect the relationships with people that mean so much to me because, at the end of the day, like I can't, that's what you have.
Speaker 5Yeah, that's, that's what means the most to you in like actuality, in real life, like after pride it's like those are the people that mean the most oh yeah but it it is crazy like I really do like hear and love like the kind of self-reflection that you've done. Like that really is like powerful and beautiful, and it's so hard to kind of like take a step back after a relationship ends, so it actually is like that's really sweet I mean every single second of every single day has been like you know, my, my mind just like thinking about you know, not just like that I fucked up, but like how much.
Speaker 3You know. It's like I got to this point where I was like I just want to have like more good days than bad days, but then I realized like there were so many good days in there that I was not able to you know, maybe like feel present for, because that's been something my entire life Like even when I was a kid, and there would be like we're going to Disney, Like I would dread it leading up to like the months before, because I'm like it's going to go by too fast, I'm not going to remember it, I'm not going to be able to like experience it and have fun, and then after the fact I'd look back and be like that was great. I same way with every single drag show I do. It's the same way with. Well, now I do them frequently enough to where I'm like girl, demystified.
Speaker 3But but you know it's that thing, where it's like I like like being present in the moment is something that scares me so much because everything feels so extreme, but like I'm so thankful to have felt every single emotion, good and bad, and like dark and light, and like grown from it and have all this amazing support and love from friends. It's like I don't. I mean, I feel like I'm the luckiest person in the world and even though I was, you know, living in this sort of world that felt like all the color was taken out of it for a while. It's like no, I mean, it's still. It's still there. You just have to adjust your you know perspective and how you're looking at it's like it still can be's still can be beautiful. It doesn't mean it's gone, it's just what set of lenses you're looking through at that time.
Speaker 5Yeah, for sure man.
Speaker 3Yeah, that's beautiful. Sorry, that was dramatic. That was a good one, no.
Speaker 4I honestly ate that shit up. That was beautiful, thank you.
Speaker 5Honestly feel like that encapsulates, like even from your personal experience, like I feel like a lot of people can glean a lot from that, like just I feel like it's part of the human experience like all those emotions, even in your personal experience.
Speaker 3It's like everybody has felt a time where they're like oh, I might have overreacted, oh, I might have underreacted oh I've been so stressed out like, oh, I'm so thankful, like that, that whole experience, like everything you just shared, I think I mean, at the end of the day, like I can try to assign blame to you know, situations in my life and things I don't like and be like. This person did this to me, but it's like there's one person in the world.
Speaker 3I have responsibility for their happiness at the end of the day, and that's my own and yeah you know, there might be a scenario where I think, oh, I can make this person happy and I can do this, and I can be willing to work and do the change like your boyfriend has done. But it's also sort of like the. You know, the reality is it's like you can't force someone else to see the love and happiness that you might want to provide for them, but you can provide that for yourself. And if you can't, if you can't do that for yourself.
Speaker 3You can't love the hell, you gonna love somebody else can I get an? Amen, but it is beautiful hashtag not uh, sponsors, and we don't support fracking. No, we don't fuck that shit.
Speaker 2But like, no, really like. It's like, because I know you personally and like very personally and like it's beautiful to see like your healing and like that journey of like from the beginning to where you're at now and you know, like healing oh yeah journey, yeah, and like you're, it's just such an up and down flow.
Speaker 2It's the same with what I've been going through too, and like I'm definitely pretty much on the mends of it and moving forward and you know, there's like certain things that have happened that it kind of like pushed me back into that and every day is different, like you can.
Speaker 3Oh, I did like 10 steps forward and it's like five steps back and two steps you know, it's just, it's different every day.
Speaker 2It really is, but I'm, yeah, thank you. I love you.
Speaker 3And I know that that's the thing is. My friends do have my back, but in this situation it is very like, okay, like matters right now, like whatever, whatever happens in the future. It's like I mean I'm, I'm not gonna stop being me, I'm not gonna stop doing. I have been, you know, sort of dealing with the difficulty of finding a balance between dealing with my emotions.
Speaker 3Like that girl from mean girls that doesn't even go here, I just have a lot of feelings, but you know what fuck it? I'd rather feel every single feeling like, and actually feel it in the moment and feel present. Then, you know, not be able to feel it, cause that's a part of being human. And this idea I had of like, oh, more good days than bad days. It's like you decide what makes something a good day, I mean where you have more control over it than you realize sometimes, and and tough emotions come up, but it's like that's what makes us stronger, it's a learning experience. And then after that you're like I'm going to do this differently so I can get a, you know.
Speaker 5Yep, exactly yeah.
Speaker 4So, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1Well do you want to tell us about your relationship? Absolutely not Okay. Why not? No, oh, are we doing our?
Speaker 5outro, or is this our? Because I think it's a beautiful story.
Speaker 2I was there.
Speaker 3Okay, well, Spence and we didn't turn this ring light on for nothing.
Speaker 1Yeah, Spence and Connor, you can tap in, can talk about how we met.
Speaker 4Oh. So, oh, I guess I'm telling you so I had gone to the movies. I had gone to the movies with my friend Abby. Hi, Abby.
Speaker 3What movie.
Speaker 4We went to go see Bottoms of all things.
Speaker 3Oh yes.
Speaker 4Great movie and after we had ran into our friends Casey and Brie as we were leaving the theater Hi roommates, and we're like let's go Shout out Casey and Brie, our favorite lesbians.
Speaker 3We love you.
Speaker 4We went to go get drinks and Colt showed up with Connor and the rest of the gays, and then who knows who was there? The gang.
Speaker 2We moved over to the gays, the Beans and Queens.
Speaker 4And then Colt and I were talking throughout the entire evening and then, as he gets up to leave, he leans over and seductively yells into my ear I would like to suck your dick. I would like to suck your dick. And then he just leaves. And then I wake up to an Instagram DM from him saying like oh, thank God I found you. I hope I didn't embarrass myself last night.
Speaker 2I found you did. I'm friends with Spencer before, so like I found, those are my favorite Florence and the Machine lyrics.
Speaker 3by the way, I want to suck your dick.
Speaker 4I want to suck your dick. The greatest love story ever told, and then you disappear into the night.
Speaker 3Oh, yeah, it's just the moment of him thinking that he's whispering this at the bar and like yelling.
Speaker 1I walked out with full confidence, like oh you and I are the same. I just whispered in his ear. He's going to want my dick.
Speaker 1Culture is more of a concept than an actual, like applied technique. Yeah well, and then I was walking home with Connor and I pull up my phone and I'm thinking, oh, of course the you know six something guy on grinder is like spencer. And so I texted him, was like, hey, sexy like that, like you're so hot, like come back to my place. And the response I get was this is no, you stupid bitch. And Noah is our friend who is a little. Oh my God, yeah, she's a mess. She's a mess.
Speaker 2We call her mother. Oh my God, all mothers are messes.
Speaker 1So that was pretty funny. And then that week we started talking and a week later we went on a date we went on a date, official date.
Speaker 5Yeah, the rest is history.
Speaker 1And I did suck his dick that night.
Speaker 5So oh my god, slay, you know speak it into existence.
Speaker 1Yeah, you were, you were manifesting. I mean, you did it really aggressively, but I mean it worked out. I think they all are just lying and I did whisper, I think yeah, they're gaslighting you actually.
Speaker 5You know what they're gaslighting you. You whispered. I actually know you whispered. I was there, yeah where were you? She was under the table.
Speaker 3I was under the table you were doing research for a project. Yeah, exactly, it was just you know have either one of y'all had a long term relationship recently before, or I've been long term single for the past five years.
Speaker 4Okay, so a relationship with yourself.
Speaker 3For five years I haven't been.
Speaker 1I just have, I don't know.
Speaker 4Well, that was in response.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, this is what got us in trouble last time was talking about this shit.
Speaker 3Well, no, just general. I have always just been.
Speaker 1I don't think like fully like my first gay friend, like really like a really good gay friend, was my ex roommate and if that gives you a, how old are you again 30.
Speaker 3Oh, but I was just like in business and yeah Like.
Speaker 1I used it as kind of like but like no, just used it as like kind of excuse excuse to not invest in personal life and not really explore being gay, I guess and so I was very much like I'm going to look the straight part and I'll hook up with people on the apps and stuff, but I'm never going to bring anyone home, I think.
Speaker 3For some people that feels easier than actually like proclaiming like this is my partner. Yeah, I mean not that you don't want it, but I mean, sometimes it's it was.
Speaker 1I mean it takes a leap of faith to be like, open about. Like you know, it's also vulnerable it didn't feel like something that was like I was gonna get, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3It was like oh, that's for other people yeah, I'm just gonna like it didn't feel like it was a part of your story at that time.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, and then I don't know, I've I've never introduced a guy to my parents or like family, and no, like I would, I would introduce spence, like I invited him to christmas, you know, oh, yeah, so that's my biggest regret, is not um introducing the sex to, because then it's like, of course I like called my dad and talked to him about it for like hours yeah, and I'm like I mean this person lives in winston.
Speaker 3Like my dad lives close to winston. Like his family is amazing. They actually invited me to christmas last year because my sister didn't include me in the christmas stuff that she did. So his family was like they actually invited me to Christmas last year Cause my sister didn't include me in the Christmas stuff that she did. So his family was like, well, he can come to our Christmas.
Speaker 3This was not this most recent year, obviously yeah, uh, december 2022, but they were so amazing and like his. You know it was like the religious family, but very open-minded, like really just like it's. You know it's tough to be able to take that sort of leap of faith, but again, it's those things that like if you know, like never wait, like if you feel like it's right to do that kind of stuff, like definitely go for it. I'm at least glad I got to meet his family, because my family's a little crazy, but you know we love them. But yeah, that's amazing and y'all do make a very cute couple you do, truly we do enjoy sucking each other's dicks, that's what I meant.
Speaker 3It's super sweet. I think I saw that on a Hallmark card for Valentine's Day.
Speaker 5Really yeah, absolutely yeah. I saw that on y'all's Christmas card.
Speaker 1Our Christmas card was I guess that's the card you give to yourself, if maybe at the bottom it's like like I'm a bottom yes, oh my god, merry Christmas.
Speaker 5I'm a bottom.
Speaker 3Just yacht studios is right around the corner and that actually, you know what I'm good at AI. Now, actually, this, this photo has some AI in it. That light is AI and Connor's pants are AI oh shit, really my pants were white.
Speaker 5You can't even tell.
Speaker 1Oh, that's crazy I thought it was so good. Adobe, is she getting smart?
Speaker 3adobe yeah, it was adobe be doing the damn thing. Yeah, gonna put me out of the job well, I think it's time for our outro.
Speaker 1So are we gonna, graham, thank you so much for okay, well I was gonna, I was gonna, I was gonna
Speaker 5do a thing oh sorry, sorry, I just blew everyone's ears out, I also haven't shut the fuck up this whole time, so I feel like you should probably do it okay.
Speaker 2I will continue to not shut the fuck up. This is why you're here.
Speaker 5Graham, thank you so much for joining us our perfect on a yacht. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to come here for the first ever Buzz and Balance podcast. I feel like it was a hit.
Speaker 3Thank you guys for having me. I've been looking forward to this since the minute y'all mentioned it and when I saw the original, the little test episode. I was like I want to be a part of this, so fucking bad.
Speaker 1You're the only person to see that well, maybe if you subscribe to Patreon subscribe to our Patreon thank you guys for having me.
Speaker 3I love what you're doing here. I think this is like an exciting thing to come. I'm excited to listen to all the other episodes as well yes, we're excited to have you back. Maybe Ana can come and bring some of her drag friends.
Speaker 2Oh, I would love that A little pride episode. I would love that Absolutely.
Speaker 3Oh, I've got some.
Speaker 5Oh my gosh, I've got some rainbow Pride episodes Pride backdrops. Oh, absolutely we will.
Speaker 1We're doing a yeah in that episode. Oh yeah, you're going to have so much fabric, absolutely. But we appreciate you, graham, you're amazing, thank you.
Speaker 2I love you guys, we love you so much. Thank you.
Speaker 3Bye.
Speaker 2Bye, bye.
